Parents are ordinary human beings

On By MeghaIn Letters to my daughter

My darling Pari,

You’ll be told and taught this countless times that parents are super-humans for they magically created you and gifted you with life. It is a half-baked truth that has been cleverly covered in the icing of control.

Never fall for it.

We parents (including grandparents) are ordinary human beings.

We too have had our moments of meltdown, failures, falls and frustrations in the course of our lives. We weren’t always the thoughtful, clever, know-it-all just as we often come across to you. These are virtues learnt over time with experience that comes with living the gift of life.

The best thing about being ordinary is we can make mistakes and still smile for we aren’t meant to be perfect or flawless. The same way, any day when you feel you’ve been wrong, you’ve failed to feel free to come to me and share it with me for I will understand how you feel. I will know what’s on your mind for I too would have been in your shoes sometime in the past. I promise to never judge you.

We as parents might not possess super-powers to undo all wrong with a magic wand or steal all hurt in a touch but we are people who love you more than anything in this universe, even ourselves. It’s the bond of love that gives us the magical strength, the added instincts, the insight and the aura of knowing the unsaid.

We too are wrong, we too fail to be just no matter how much we’d want to be. In those times, please remember that your mum too is just a human being and forgive her.

” One of the most powerful truths we can offer our children is the knowledge thatwe’re all still learning.

None of us have arrived; we all have room to grow. This free our kids from
expecting perfection of themselves-or anyone else- because  they know that
life is a journey, from day one.” ~ Erica Layne

With loads of love and blessings,

Mum

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The song on my mind: Tujhe dekh dekh sona ~ Kalyug

39 thoughts on “Parents are ordinary human beings”

  1. so true.. so true.. I wish I can make Adi read this post right now..
    “any day when you feel you’ve been wrong, you’ve failed feel free to come to me and share it with me for I will understand how you feel. ” – Something that I strongly agree and always tell the same to Adi too.. loved this post ME

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  3. You know something ME, every time i read such posts from you, R’s mom and other mommy bloggers – I feel grateful to have read this. I don’t know whether you know it or not but in this short span of time I have learnt many things from you.You people inspire me to actually be a friend along with being a parent to one’s child. I really admire the way you do this and am sure when Pari grows she will be proud of you.

    As for me, currently I am undergoing training with you all lovely people out here to implement these skills once I have my own! 🙂

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  4. This is the best piece of advice I have ever read.. It is important to realize that in any relationship, especially that of a parent-child , unrealistic expectations, granting super human status can be disastrous. I am going to save this one to pass it on to Diya…

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  7. ME..with this post my respect for you has increased manifold!! 😀
    The best thing about being ordinary is we can make mistakes and still smile for we aren’t meant to be perfect or flawless — loved this line !!!
    You are such a good writer ME!!! And a wonderful person!! 🙂 love ya..

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  10. Awww 🙂 Hugs!

    And it’s ok to forgive yourself for little mistakes with Pari 🙂 Don’t be hard on yourself…. she is being a daughter for the first time, and so are you, a mother 🙂

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    1. I am not being hard Ash, just writing whatever is on my mind with the view that my daughter will actually be reading these many years from now 😀
      Hugs dear

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  11. Hugs, hugs and lotz of luv…such a heartfelt post….I wish Mishti reads this some day….. Wd must say Pari is so fortunate to have u as her mom…..luv to li’l princess as well.

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  12. Awwww….emotional kar diya yaar…!!

    How are you and Pari..??? A big hug to both of you:)

    The problem with many is that they strive for perfection, and in this struggle they forget to enjoy the little moments of love…hai na..???

    Take care
    Muahhhhh to Pari:*

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  13. Two things :
    a) Hail the ordinary. Hail those wise enough to be happily ordinary. Hail those grown up enough to appreciate the ordinary-ness .
    b) Yipeee. . read all posts. It almost feels like I’ve known you & Pari well. . not just textually over 5 days! Keep writing pls 🙂

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    1. Woooow! I am genuinely touched by the effort you’ve put in to read so many posts in such little time 🙂
      Thank you for taking out time to do so.
      I will keep writing for sure 😀

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  14. Simple, touching and so true! Must say, Pari is a lucky child to have someone so clear-headed in her life to look up to. Because that will be out of true respect, open and free, and not out of fear disguised as respect. 🙂

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  15. So wonderfully said, ME. The most wonderful part is that even though parents do not have super powers per se, they try their best. To be patient, loving, understanding. That is what makes them super. 🙂

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    1. You are absolutely right there Deboshree, they try everything in their power for anything that concerns their children 😀
      Thank you 🙂

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  16. I have no words to express what I felt after reading this. am yet to read the rest of the posts with this tag. may you and yours find peace and meaning in all you put yourselves to.

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