Hurt

On By MeghaIn Parenting

I am sore today. Pari has recently started trying to walk holding the objects in her reach. Sometimes her judgement of what would be a good support isn’t right and the outcome, I see her falling down quite often.

The sound of a thud indicating Pari falling down, is something I don’t want to hear, but something that I can’t control either. In the past couple of days, ever since Pari has started standing up holding the dressing table in her grandparent’s room, she seems to have fallen in love with her sweet self all over again.

I say so, for I know she already enjoys admiring herself in the mirror, but this new-found fascination caused something disastrous today. In an attempt to admire herself in the new dress she’d worn after bath, she let go off both her hands (which I constantly stop her from doing) and what happened next was something that reached my ears before it met my eyes.

A heart piercing, blood curdling cry that indicated that something had seriously gone wrong. She fell with her chin hitting the edge of the dressing table causing her teeth to graze mercilessly on her lips. Though the bleeding stopped within moments of my applying ice but it took me a long while to soothe Pari from her uncontrollable crying.

After around half an hour of loving, cooing, consoling, distracting, rocking, swinging, visit to the garden in our house in the scorching afternoon and listening to Lakdi ki Kathi in a loop for all this time, Pari finally dozed off.

Pari has had a fair share of hits, falls and bumping that is an inseparable part of learning and growing up. But, today’s fall has been the severest of them all. She has developed a big hematoma on her upper lip and I was dreading the time she’ll wake up, for it is surely going to be sore for a while.

Though the good news is, when she woke she seemed to have forgotten all about the accident, despite a swollen face and resumed her mischief just like every other day.

If you are wondering how did I react after reading the first line I started this post with, let me assure you, I was quite calm, composed and normal all the time though something hurt me deep inside. I feel sore from within but am too numb to react with tears, or is it normal to not cry? I am not too sure though.

It has been an exceptionally emotionally draining day cause of many other reasons besides Pari’s fall. I am just hoping things change with time and get better with each passing day.

The song on my mind: Ye Jeevan hai ~Piya Ka Ghar

50 thoughts on “Hurt”

  2. Oh….that was a bad accident that happened. Glad to hear she is doing fine. You know I like this thing about kids, they seem to forget pain and hurt so easily. Wish we all could do that. I can understand your concern but as everyone says, this is part and parcel of growing up…

    Take care …

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  3. Ohhh…that sounds bad 😦

    Hope she is fine…give lotz of kisses & hugs to Pari on my behalf…..it is so hard to see them fall & trip all the time

    A tight Jhappi to you ME ….

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  6. Gosh thats so scary yaar…I had a similar incident with R..and yes while I went beserk, she was pretty cool about it after a while

    big hugs to her and to you too 🙂

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  8. I felt happy reading that Pari forgot everything and resumed her mischief 🙂

    We had a young couple residing nearby our house raising an 2 year old kid. They used to stay in the first floor of the house. Once when the lady was locking the door, somehow the kid tumbled down the stairs and felt flat on the floor leading to a swollen bump on her forehead. I still remember all of us so shocked. But the kid? She was all jumping and prancing here and there oblivious to all. She was even consoling the mother, who was wailing like anything.

    Kids, even though they bring our heart to our mouth will live in their own blissful world.

    Loads of love to both of you ME 🙂

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    1. Ouch! I can imagine how scared the mother must have been and am so glad the baby was fine after the dangerous fall.
      Couldn’t agree more Visha 🙂
      Love from both of us

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  9. Oh dear! It must have been tough to see and go through.. 😦 Good that she forgot after waking up… Wish her to be fine soon!
    I remember amma telling me how many times I have fallen and hurt myself before I hit 1.5years.. Acc to her, I too have grazed my lips many times and sometimes managed to hurt others too (read mom & dad) while falling and hurting myself. Dad still carries a scar on his nose close to his eyes from me falling on him 🙂 Mom had to take care of oozing blood for both daughter and daddy 🙂

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    1. I can totally understand GB, these hits, trips and falls are an essential part of learning and growing up. OMG now that must be quite a situation with parent and baby both getting injured.
      Hugs GB

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  10. I remember once I was with Arnav and he was playing. We were on a mattress and then right in front of my eyes he lost balance and fell backwards, hitting his head. All this happened in a fraction of seconds and I could see it happening before my eyes but couldn’t help him because it was all too quick. Thankfully nothing major happened to him but a guilty feeling keept niggling at the back of my mind that I could have saved him.
    Parenting guilt I tell you!!!

    Hugs to lovely Pari and you too. Cheer up, there are many falls in store for her and unless she falls she will not learn to balance and save herself 🙂

    Smile because there are better days waiting for you to embrace them 🙂

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      1. I have actually seen exactly same things happen with Pari’s trips and falls too, I can see it happen right before my eyes hardly a few inches from me but it all happens too fast for us to act on time…Sigh!….it’s the same story in every baby’s house!
        Hugs Smita

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  11. Ow!! Sounds painful!

    Hugs to little Pari. The bruise should heal soon.
    Painful as it sounds, I guess falling down is the only she will learn to get up soon after and move as well. Although I do hope she doesn’t have such severe falls…

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  12. Yes it’s ok to cry. Watching your kids gets hurt and bleeding is heart wrenching. I’ve been there so many times but I still panick and feel like crying. Get well soon Pari and you take care.

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    1. We are both fine and back to routine mischief…it’s the beginning of a major learning phase for both of us (Pari and myself) so we are getting used to it slowly 😀
      Hugs MoRS

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  14. Ohhhhh!!!! Hope Pari is fine now….Did you check with doctor?
    My daughter had a similar fall, but she cut her lip & had to have stitches on the lip..it was a most frightening experience.

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    1. Oh yeah, she’s absolutely fine, checked with a doctor too 🙂
      It sure must have been a very frightening experience, I can imagine the pain and horror you must have gone through seeing your daughter in pain.
      Hugs techie2mom

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  15. Bikramjit Singh Mann

    well let me tell you one thing and you may hate me after this , GOOD she fell down .. when she woke up she had forgotten about it .. That is all growing up all about , better to fall down now , get hurt and get up .. then later on in age ..

    No harm in all that , kids are very intelligent she will not do it again, and will remember she fell ..

    as they say Girte hain sheh swaar hi maidane jung main 🙂

    I hope the swelling get fine soon and that she is already running around as if nothing has happened …

    and good you wrote that you remained calm and all, because you getting panicky wud not have helped the situation at all ..

    Take care and keep smiling lots of love and hugs to dearest pari ..

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    1. That’s so right and I totally understand that all these falls are an essential part of growing up and learning curves to be more careful in the future…she’s fine now 🙂
      No, I don’t hate you for saying as it is…I actually agree with you
      Hugs from Pari

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  16. Hugs, ME, to you and Pari! I’m sure she will be fine – they forget in minutes – it stays with us though.

    And the hurt continues, I think, even as they grow older, even their emotional upsets, hurt us more than them. Hugs!

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    1. I absolutely agree with what you said about the hurt lingering in the minds and hearts of parents long after the kids have healed, forgotten and moved on in life.
      Hugs Smitha

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  18. Hugs ME and poochie to dear Pari. Please pass them on okay? They are for her only and not you 🙂

    Sometimes, these memories haunt us. The fall and the whole trauma associated with it and you are always so weary and always so protective and …. you know what I mean.
    But rest assured that a fall, a broken tooth and bruises were part of our childhood and look at us now – all big and coming out of them 🙂 And someday, Pari will look at the mark and reminisce about the best part of her life and the best mother she could have 🙂

    Oh, don’t forget the poochies please.

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    1. Poochies passed onto Pari and she asked me to pass on tight hugs and milk soiled poochies from her 🙂
      Love and hugs from my side 😀

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  21. Hope she is better now. As a parent I suppose you hurt just as bad when they hurt even if you don’t cry or show it. As crazy as it may sound, I feel that way when either of the kitties is sick or hurt. And I suppose she will continue to have her share of falls and bumps as it is part of growing up and as much as you want to protect her, sometimes just being there after is still good enough.

    I still remember when I was about 3 or something I fell and hurt myself just about the eye on the corner of our coffee table. Required stitches and everything…I still have a scar today. I know my mum was freaked out and turns out I was lucky as it missed my actual eyeball by a few inches…

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    1. I agree each time the child is hurt the parent(s) too suffers the pain.
      Ouch! that was something very serious you suffered as a baby, I can only imagine how worried and freaked out your mum must have been then.

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  22. Take care..hope she is well now.

    I wonder what my Mom must have undergone due to my cheeky behaviour.Mom told me that I have drank dettol,kerosene,I have eaten candle and match sticks,I have broke my nose after falling from the bed and I have thrown a pearl into my brother’s ear.Phew!!
    Poor mom 😦

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  23. I feel kids’ attitudes towards falling and getting hurt and getting up again and continuing their activities teaches us adults a good life lesson, no?

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  24. upasna1987

    Awww but being a Mother of 2+ now, I have grown strong. But I will tell you one thing- He was 7 months old when he fell for the first time and it was my negligence. And I punished myself for that by hitting myself. I cried, I wailed but my MIL made me understand that it happens. Kids have this magical way of forgetting the things and be same again. She will be fine Era. Don’t worry.

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    1. Thank you dear Upasana for sharing your precious experience. You are right, kids have a way of getting up, dusting themselves and getting back to what they were doing before being hurt as if nothing happened. If only we parents could learn this magic trick from our children, our lives would be so much happier.
      {Hugs}

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