My darling Pari,
From a long time or more correctly, from the time it became clear that we (you and I) couldn’t continue being associated with your father, I have been panicked about you and your future. I used to spend sleepless nights worrying how will I take care of you all alone, as a single mother.
Things have changed dramatically in the course of one year. I do worry, but not on the same lines as before. I am still scared of the future but not for the reasons I was earlier. I want to share with you some of the big lessons I have recently learnt the hard way.
I was told so on a number of occasions, but I took time to realize it on my own. Our life doesn’t end with certain people ceasing to be a part of it. It’s a fact. Very bitter to accept but when thought about with a clear perspective, it sure makes great sense.
Whatever your father did and has been doing to harm us, is a clear message that he has no emotions or feelings let alone worries whether we (you & I ) exist or perish. Happiness and peace are two things that he has not even been considering. I left him when there was no valid point left to indicate that sharing our life with him would do us any good.
It’s been thought over and over infinite times. Though I have always landed on the same conclusion but repeated thinking and analysis brought to fore some wonderful realizations. Our life, our happiness, our future is in our hands. It is up to us to make it, shape it and channelize it the way we think is right.
No-matter who formed our past, our present and future is yet a ball of clay, waiting for us to mold it the way we want it. We are complete in our own way. When we decide to surround us with people who truly care for us, the positive energy and love helps change everything to a favorable and acceptable form.
There is no fear for faith rules. There is no guilt or frustration for understanding and love prevails. So worry not my sweetheart, we both are enough for ourselves. We two shall overcome any challenges life throws our way.
So never ever worry about what all we could have, but smile and be happy about all that we have accomplished in our journey together.
Stay positive and keep smiling.
With love and blessings,
Mum
The song on my mind: Yun hi kat jayega safar ~ Hum hain rahi Pyar ke
As I have always said.. Let bad people do their worst.. Good and truth will win.. Always may take long but it will.
You and pari will be very fine.. My best wishes your way.. Take care
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Thank you Bikram for instilling faith in me 🙂
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ME… See, just as I hoped – you are back. I mean, strong enough to see and live through the happenings again, to write this beautiful letter to Pari. Everything you said is true to the point. I am so happy, your thoughts are positive again and I am sure everything is going to be fine, soon! Hugs ME.
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Hugs GB
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Hugs ME…Pari is very lucky to have you as a mom….
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Hugs RM
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Hey, good to see the strong My Era back….
I am sure, you girls will overcome all the obstacles and accomplish many happiness on your way….
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I too hope the same t2m 😀
Hugs!
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There you go! 🙂
And as long little Pari’s mum has her head firmly on her shoulders and thinks straight and moves on, little Pari is in safe hands 🙂
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May the almighty keep me focused and sane through it all.
Amen!
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So happy to read this spirited letter ME 🙂
Yes, its in your hands to mould today and tomorrow in whichever way you want.
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Thank you Visha 🙂
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Era, sometimes its easier being a single mom, than being with someone who does nothing but expects you to do and report everything to him in regards of the house and child. What Pari needs is love and I bet her mother and grandparents are giving her a lot of it. Someday she will be old enough to be told the truth and I bet she will understand. Until then its YOU she looks up to and imitates, be the person you want her to be. 🙂
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Couldn’t agree more to your last line 😀 😀
Hugs Jo
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yes, Pari, mom and you can make a beautiful future for each other.. wishing you all the good luck.. !!!
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Thank you Am 😀
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Those are beautiful words that speak nothing but the truth. It is so inspiring to read this 🙂 hugs ME 🙂
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Thank you sweetie 🙂
Hugs!
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Hugs ME! You are an awesome person! 🙂
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Love you SS 🙂
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with a loving and strong mum like you, i dont think u have to worry about Pari’s future. u did that right thing if i may add by distancing Pari from that man who in my opinion isnt worth being called her ‘father’. my thoughts and prayers go out to you and Pari. may you both have an awesome time with each other.
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Thank you Arjun 🙂
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Very touching letter……yes! you and Pari shall overcome… WE shall overcome.
TC
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Hugs PT 🙂
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The words “We are complete in our own way” say so much in so little words its unbelievable. This is powerful stuff and I’m glad I come to read this somehow.
Awesome.
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Thank you TBAB 🙂
Hope to see you around often
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When she would read these letters…. I am sure these would be her source of strength…… Hugs to u & li’l darling
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I sincerely hope these letters help her see my perspective 😀
Hugs N from Pari & myself
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I love your spirit MyEra. Stay positive. I am sure you and Pari will have a great future 🙂 and the present situation is just a passing phase. It will be the past soon. Hugs to both of you 🙂
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Thank you lifesong
Hugs dear 🙂
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Hi ME,
I have been following your blog posts keenly ever since I chanced upon your blog and delurking today as your post really stikes close to heart. Your worries about being a single mom are something that I can understand being raised by one myself. Though the stories differ in how it came about ( my dad passed away when I was 3) , the fact of growing up without a father figure rings true. I can assure though I always wished I had a Dad around, I never wanted for love, guidance and inspiration ever in my life due to the heroic way in which my Mom brought up my sis & I. She made sure she was economically independent and never let anything negative influence us by literally cutting out the people who could potentially harm us in any which way…thought or action. I see the same spirit in you, having been through your travails in the older posts. I know your lil one has the best possible start in a life, a mother who truly has her best interests at heart. Nothing can ever go wrong from there 🙂 Wish you all the best with all my heart and I can tell u from my experience that Pari is going to be VERY VERY PROUD of you when she grows up!
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Thank you for delurking Pal and sharing your personal story. Your mum is a very strong lady. Please pass on my regards to her.
Tight hugs for helping me believe that all I am doing actually makes some sense.
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Yes you did the right move for you and Pari, I am sure Pari will appreciate when she grows. By the way how’s the little one doing?
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She’s doing fine LF…how’s Houston treating you?
Hugs
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This is the first time im visiting ur blog.. Many of your posts have left my eyes moist.. May GOD give u all the strength to overcome this part of life.. Pari is really lucky to have u as her mom.. she will definitely understand u when she grows and will definitely appreciate ur decision..
hugs to u….
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Welcome to my space Sujatha 🙂
Thank you for the best wishes…Hugs!
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This is so thoughtfully sweet of you.
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Thank you 🙂
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YOUR daughter is SO LUCKY to have got such an amazing mother as you! She would grow up to be a strong woman. Hugs to you and your daughter! 🙂
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Welcome to my blog Mystery 🙂
Thank you very much. Hugs and love to you from Pari & myself 🙂
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