“I have a dream, I have a vision, I have a mission, I have to do something, I will do this at this time; the thoughts of everybody; how do I deal with that obstacle? how do I get there? ; troubling questions for everybody! Releasing ourselves, plugging into the purpose, challenging the challenges, questioning the unquestionable, taking the chances; the asset and audacity of somebody. Everybody has a dream but, it is somebody who gets to the dream.” ~ Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

There is a lot of pain, anguish, fear, anticipation, disappointment and frustration in the life of a parent. But the good news is, none of these is present all the time.

The joy of being a creator of new life, the zeal of passing on our values to a child.

The hope of doing enough to help our progeny grow up into kind human beings, the satisfaction of having provided enough love and support can often be enough to keep us sailing through the rough waters, day after day.

I’d be lying if I say that the peace that fills my heart when my child shows that her universe revolves around me makes me forget that I have had a rough day.

The teeny weeny moments of laughing for no rhyme or reason often work as erasers of the furrows on my brows. The laugh lines, the greying hair don’t even register as points of worry as compared to the grumpy look on my child’s face.

The ecstasy of being the role model to an innocent child, the hustle of providing everything a child can ever need to the mayhem over 18 hours every day makes parenting a life-changing experience.

Honestly speaking, there are plenty of rough patches in the journey of being a parent and more so if you’re a single parent like me.

But, hey, isn’t that the case with every relationship?

Don’t boyfriends forever keep complaining that they have no clue what their girl wants?

Don’t newlyweds keep saying they’re learning the ropes but are overwhelmed by the new-found added responsibilities?

Aren’t our lives changed the minute we’re in a committed relationship?

Don’t we make sacrifices and life-changing decisions in one way or the other in every relationship?

Then why is there so much hue and cry about life as a parent? 

When I sat to think about this I realized that perhaps we have grown accustomed to the idea of placing parents and everything they do on a high pedestal.

This is what empowers the ideology that parents are always right because they are super-humans.

Being a parent myself, I beg to differ.

I believe parents are ordinary human beings and like any non-parent, we are prone to making wrong choices, making errors, putting convenience first in certain circumstances, missing out on the bigger picture, failing to understand what a child really wants and much more.

The beauty, the real joy of being a parent lies in the unconditional love that they share with the extension of themselves, their child (or children).

Beyond the pain, tears, responsibilities and tantrums lies the magical, innocent world of a child’s imagination that can make any half glass appear half full.

This alacrity of a bond that never loses its value, the earnestness to give life’s best to our child, the drive to keep going with a smile come what may make a parent-child relationship extra special.

Beyond all rules, advises and shortcuts to being a smart parent, lies the passion that makes us dance like puppets to the tunes of a tiny bundle of joy.

It is in the twinkle of the child’s eyes where the real zeal of life lies.

Parenting is a challenge every single day. But if you look closely you'll see the true joy, the zeal that keeps every parent going despite the frustration, overwhelm, fatigue and the tears. Read on to know where exactly does the true joy of parenting lies. #theerailivedin #parentingtips #singlemom #momlife

* This post is part of the April A to Z Challenge. My theme is Parenting.

Please find my other posts here.

13 thoughts on “Zeal 

  1. Beautiful post. You are doing a great job as a Mum. I’m no parent but I know that to bring up a person and shape them is no mean feat. Congrats on completing the challenge. I enjoyed your posts and of course good to meet you.. I’ll be around!


  2. Another lovely post!

    Congratulations on surviving the challenge! I have enjoyed reading all your posts and have learnt new things. Thank you for sharing your posts.

    Part is lucky she has a very strong role model – her dear mommy!

    I look forward to reading more posts from you in future. You sure do have a way with words and I wish you best and hope that you can take your writing to newer and higher levels.

    Kind regards
    Truly Happy


  3. vijji

    Hello Me, This is Vijji, mom of a 2 year old. I am a regular reader of your blog. Your A-Z posts on parenting are truly inspiring and your are a role model in this aspect truly.Such gentle yet strong thoughts and lessons from you makes parenting interesting and beautiful. God bless you and Pari.


  4. fabulus1710

    The last line *sniffs* Perfect! *starts sobbing*

    It is true. I always consider the things that my parents say as correct, unless it is something about technology! But yes, I’ve always noticed that the advice my mom gives me always works. And I’ve tried going against it also, just to be a rebellious teenager. 😀

    Congratulations on completing the Challenge dear! It was truly amazing reading your posts on Parenting. And as I’ve said earlier too, I don’t know much at all about parenting, but from the point of view of a teenager, your advice and wisdom seems correct! Cheers to many more fabulous posts ❤


  5. “Beyond all rules, advises and shortcuts to being a smart parent, lies the passion that makes us dance like puppets to the tunes of a tiny bundle of joy. It is in the twinkle of the child’s eyes where the real zeal of life lies.”

    Wise yet loving words. There is surrender, most of all there is joy. ❤ Love it, Era!!!
    Congratulations for finishing this challenge! It was great meeting you!


  6. Really so heartfelt this was, but then again all your posts are! No child’s play bringing up a child in today’s times. I almost feel one needs super-natural powers to be a good parent. But as mortals we have to be content with our trial and error techniques. Congrats dear for doing an incredibly insightful series on parenting with tips and tricks that worked for you. Your beautiful and thoughtful advice will be a boon for all young parents. God bless you and Pari.
    Lovely connecting with you 🙂
    @KalaRavi16 from


  7. So true, its the passion what drives us! As I have mentioned, I am a fan of yours and the way you handle situations. Esp with the fact that you make it sound so normal, so obvious and so easy! Hats off to you 🙂
    Congrats on successfully completing the A to Z Challenge 🙂 I am so glad, I found your blog through this challenge 😀 ❤


  8. Congratulations on completing your challenge! Your thoughts are a mirror of your soul and one day I hope your little girl gets to read the awesome writing you have produced. In being human we become lovable to our kids, that finally is the answer to any and every question. You started the posts in love, love for your daughter prompted you to write and learn to be a better mother. You completed it by coming full circle by evaluating the relationships that matter to you. Rejoice for you have inspired those who have read your wise words.


  9. Plenty of rough patches, and the best moments mixed in there in large supply. Being a parent changed me more than anything.
    Congratulations on completing the Challenge. It’s been a crazy month, and we are more than deserving of a break.

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