Welcome to The Era I Lived In.
I was brought up to believe that talking about our personal lives outside of the home is a shameful act and should be avoided at all costs.
For years, I stuck to this principle without ever questioning it. I was forced to question this belief and test waters at a stage in life when I could no longer hold the pain within.
I was battling for life, praying for the well-being of my baby and struggling to survive the heartbreak and wreck of my dying marriage.
That’s when I started this personal blog.
Here, I write to bring to the surface fears safely kept hidden in the closets of my mind. To get a deeper insight into my undiscovered potentials and know me better with each post I write.
I do not wish to curb my emotions from being registered in ink out of fear of the people who hold no true relevance in my life.
In this space, you’ll get to read everything that has happened in the life of a woman who has started getting her first grey hair and wishes to capture every moment of her life from here on.
I am trying to create an autobiography that I would love to read once I am old, wanting to re-visit the life I once lived.
In this journey that started in 2007, I found myself questioning my existence, my beliefs and everything I had done thus far in life.
I had worked hard to be the ‘good’ girl I was raised to be.
I had tried my best to fulfil all my responsibilities as had been drummed into my psyche by people around me, with utmost sincerity.
I had left no stone unturned to put all my wants, desires and dreams behind those of my near and dear ones.
Yet, I found myself standing all alone in the rough waters when my health, my marriage, my emotional and mental well-being and my and my child’s survival were at stake.
At that moment, I decided to wake up.
I made a promise to myself to question every aspect of my existence. To find the answers as to why I was so burnt out, unhealthy, broken and almost suicidal despite having given my very best to abide by the laws of the society I lived in.
It has taken me over a decade of learning, unlearning and breaking free from conditioning to understand why my health (both physical and emotional) suffered tremendously while I was being everything but my authentic self.
Since then, through this blog, I am on a mission to put people’s health back in their hands.
By health, I do not mean just physical well-being.
Yes, that is important but more than that, the emotional and spiritual well-being that makes an essential aspect of our holistic health.
The way we act, the foods we eat, the people we connect with, and the work that we create — these things affect our physical health in ways that science is only beginning to understand.
But we do know this: if we embrace our power to live healthily, then we’ll be far better off than if we didn’t.
Research is beginning to prove something that we previously ignored: that our actions determine the diseases we suffer from, the allergies that annoy us, the health of our children and grandchildren, and virtually every other area of our physical and mental lives.
And when it comes to healing most illnesses, our behaviour is just as effective as the vast majority of drugs.
Imagine a world where our new exercise habit removes the need for a prescription drug.
Imagine a world where our healthy diet reverses our weight gain, relieves the stress on our joints, and eliminates the need for knee surgery.
Imagine a world where we relieve stress from our job by doing something artistic each evening, perhaps painting or writing, and as a result, we lower our blood pressure without medication.
Imagine a world where our health and happiness are determined not by getting the correct diagnosis or discovering some magical cure, but by daily choices that are completely within our control.
Imagine what our life would look like if we maximize these opportunities.
We would climb mountains, run marathons, lift heavy things, and live a fiercely physical life.
We would be grateful for what you have and genuinely happy for the successes of others.
We would contribute more to our community, our work, and our family.
This is a world where we would embrace our ability to heal ourselves and we would fulfil the quest to live a healthy life. And it’s exactly the type of world that I am working to create for myself and for everyone who aspires for a similar life.
I couldn’t be happier to have you along for the ride.
As a weight loss coach, I am committed to helping women of all ages and walks of life create a lighter, healthier, happier and calmer existence for themselves while creating the life and body they deserve.
Change is hard. You’ve probably noticed that.
We all want to become better people — stronger and healthier, more creative and more skilled, a better friend or family member.
Through my writing, over the years I have tried to capture my learnings, triumphs and failures that have shaped the person I am today.
This blog has played a key role in helping me build a community of people who are striving to become better in every aspect of their life with awareness, curiosity and empathy.
Remember, you are not at all expected to have all of the answers nor to have your ducks in a row.
Getting through life as it comes our way is plenty enough.
Minute by minute, day by day.
Give yourself the permission to be messy, to be emotional, to cry, to feel angry and to forgive yourself.
Our right-now might not look like anyone else’s right-now and that simply means we’re figuring out what this looks like for us and adjusting accordingly.
It definitely doesn’t mean we’re any less-than or more-than.
I’m confident, someday everything will make perfect sense.
So, for now, I aim to laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding myself that everything happens for a reason.
And, by the way, sharing your personal stories isn’t a shameful act. It is what sets you free.
By sharing my personal stories, I am giving you the permission to go ahead and release all self-judgement and the stories you hold within. Unburden your soul and soar like a free bird.
You’re going to feel like hell if you wake up someday and you never wrote the stuff that is tugging on the sleeves of your heart: your stories, memories, visions and songs — your truth, your version of things — in your own voice. ~ Anne Lamott
If you’re curious, read, why I blog about my personal life.
Experience is not what happened to you; it is what you do with what happens to you ~ Aldous Huxley
If you are new here, please start reading from this post: Who Am I and Who Am I Becoming
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