From the past many months I have been constantly looking for ways to help me seek peace. From eating healthy to regular exercise, from going out to concentrating on my future, from indulging in hobbies to trying to meditate and many others, I have tried most of the tips and tricks offered.
Though they did help me, but I would soon rebound back to my original self as soon as I got used to the new regimen. I think this is one of those issues that affects each one of us in one form or the other.
A few days back, I stumbled upon an article that helped me gain insight about this whole issue. When I first read it, initially I felt it was yet another piece of advise that would deal with the time tested tricks, for all it said was something you and I already know. Yet, we suffer from unrest and lack of peace in our lives.
But somewhere in my heart I wanted to go ahead and read the full article. Maybe it was my desperation to find an end to my unrest and stressed out state that pushed me to read further. It highlighted an important aspect of human behavior that gave me food for thought.
We all tend to look at every event, every emotion in our life to have two bearings. One good and one bad. We always, whether knowingly or habitually tend to divide everything into two. Success and failure, gain and loss, good and bad, peace and unrest and the like. This is the real trap.
Whenever we are faced with anything we are advised to accept the good and let go of the bad. In an attempt to divide and trying to forget the bad, we unknowingly stop accepting the goodness the good part had to offer.The same is the case with peace of mind.
The unrest in our minds tends to rule and we are endlessly trying to seek one half (peace) and let go of the bad (unrest). The article suggested, we need to learn to accept the whole and face it. The minute we will strengthen ourselves to face whatever may come, to stay content whether stress or peace comes in our share, we will be peaceful.
If you are wondering how, then here is the answer.
Peace begins with being content in life. The minute our greed, our desires will be in our control, we will be able to attain solace. It is possible and very much attainable in our current life without having to decide to give up everything and making the Himalayas our abode. Just accept life as it is, by doing so you’ll be content in whatever comes your way and with contentment, peace shall follow.
The bottom-line being, we need to accept whatever comes our way without trying to segregate it into good and bad. Though this doesn’t imply we should stop striving for improvement and neither does it mean that not reacting to the wrong is the way of life.
It simply means, accepting the not-so-good as part of life will make our lives peaceful in general. For it is usually the fear of the bad that harms us more than the bad itself. Don’t live in fear and don’t keep cribbing about the bad and you’ll be peaceful in no time.
Rather than fighting against your current situation, be with it, move with it, and adapt to it. Struggle will tire you; learn to float.
To help us experience the truth behind this philosophy, the article had a simple exercise that can be done by everyone of us.
From this minute till exactly the same time tomorrow, try to accept everything that comes your way as a part of life without trying to divide it into good and bad parts. If you feel peaceful at the end, the exercise holds good and can be practiced on a daily basis till it becomes our way of life.
I have been working on this and am glad to see positive results. Do give it a try for our peace of mind is actually in our own hands.
The song on my mind: Uthe sabke kadam rum pum pum ~ Baton Baton Mein