When our children are born,
The quiet communication yearns to be torn,
With gurgling and giggling we spin the reverie,
Of how’ll be life with words flowing free.
As parents, we talk non-stop,
Ushering the child to let the first word pop,
That is just the start,
The quiet is now a thing of the past.
When child indulges in incessant banter,
We say “Quiet please, listen to your mother”,
We wish the rule of the silence returns,
Cutting noise, in peace may we all learn.
But is the quiet always needed from children alone?
It is a superpower, its cloak we parents must learn to don.
The open, receptive, quiet,
That heals the heart with its might,
Wipes the noise of hurt,
Assures the child, he need no words to blurt.
The quiet that allows children to feel free,
Express themselves, just as they wish to be,
In these precious moments,
Kids learn to own, rewind and assess problems.
Often silence is better than offering solutions,
Let the healthy emotional resilience grow,
Keeping it light but making child know,
We acknowledge their feelings,
We understand their points of view.
We’re right here accepting them in totality,
Let them relax in the pause feeling free.
Don’t let the quiet feel awkward,
It’s vital for their journey onward,
Come empathize, words free,
Let peace begin with ‘we’.
I promise to love, hug and cuddle with all my attention,
My precious, come to me without hesitation,
Let the quiet swallow all dismissals & diminution,
Of your being so little or strayed from the mission.
Let it be the moment that tells you and me,
We are equally in love & wrapped in ties of empathy,
I want us to learn that feelings don’t always make sense,
We need a breather to let ’em go & become paste tense.
Let’s put the commotion aside,
I let you, my child be in control, to decide,
What shall happen in your life.
Let’s begin with questions to help explore,
Your desires, ambitions, freedom and more,
I’m trying to take a step back with the quiet,
Resisting the urge to rescue with all my might.
May the silence usher growth of resilience in you,
May the quiet bring you, closer to the stronger you.
Parents so often are tempted to jump to rescue their children with soothing words, offering solutions to children’s problems and encouraging them incessantly. But often, a quiet hug, an understanding nod, an empathetic cuddle can help the child clear the air, come to terms with their problems and begin to look at them in a more analytical light. Taking the step back to let our children develop resilience is crucial. Resisting the urge to break the silence is important from time to time. Reassure the child you’re around but let them be their own champions finding solutions on their own.
* This post is part of the April A to Z Challenge 2016. My theme is Parenting.
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