I no longer want my home to be sparkling clean 

Every time we have a visitor at home, before their arrival, I go on a crazy cleaning spree. Though this obsession of cleaning the house to spotless clean has mellowed down with age, I hadn’t given up until recently.

When I was still a teenager, I used to spend hours polishing the decoration pieces, vacuuming the rugs and ensuring home was squeaky clean and in perfect order. At that point, I used to see this habit of mine as an obsession with cleanliness or orderliness. Though, I do not think the same anymore.


Yesterday, when my cousins were due to visit us and I was running around the house putting things in order, I stopped for a moment to think why I was doing something I didn’t do on a daily or rather regular basis. I do keep the home in order but what I do when we are expecting company is nothing short of insane. A house that is in order and kept clean should be sufficient on a daily basis and that should also be the case when we have guests coming over. But, this understanding never worked for me until yesterday.

This time, I held myself back from overdoing the cleaning or going overboard in making the home look picture perfect. Though it took me 10 minutes of contemplation to not get back to my old self, but at the end of the day I had saved myself enough energy to use it during my interaction with the guests and enjoy every minute of it.

In retrospect, it might be cause of my new-found wisdom (showered by the three new grey hair) or maybe my recent inclination towards weighing in the utility of every habit I have. But, in the end I am pretty happy that I have changed for the better. Overdoing the cleaning used to drain my energy leaving me cranky and dull enough to not enjoy any minute of the real occasion.

I believe, becoming a parent has also contributed in bringing about this positive change in me because with a baby tornado in the house, I am left with no choice but to be satisfied with a clean home that is in order only during the school hours. I can safely strike through my old habit of being obsessed with keeping the house squeaky clean and am glad to bid adieu.

The song on my mind: Yeh tera ghar, yeh mera ghar ~ Saath Saath

8 thoughts on “I no longer want my home to be sparkling clean 

  1. I am telling you, I’m “grown up Pari”, and you’re just like my mom 😀
    I had a poster on the door to my room that read “Please don’t clean my room. You’re making my perfect world upside down!” 😀 😀
    Our home is where our heart is, where we are most comfortable. If we’re having to clean it and rearrange it like crazy every time there is a visitor, either the place need more daily cleaning or we’re trying to portray a false side of ours to people, God knows why. This was my explanation to her every time, for not wanting to do it 😀


    1. I couldn’t help but agree (now more than ever before) to your thought of it being an artificial portrayal of our life if we are going way out of our way to clean up the home just cause we have visitors. Though this kind of sense has taken 30 long years to descend over me but am grateful that it finally did before anymore damage to my mind could be done 🙂
      And I guess I told you before and am telling you again, I’m beginning to love like I love Pari ❤

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  2. Same pinch. I used to obsessed with cleanliness until I had an epiphany – How many hours of my life am I spending cleaning that I can do something else with? I also had this need for perfection when people come over to kinda show that I am good at cleaning.

    I am still a quite clean person relatively and don’t spend as much time and energy as before. Luckily I do not have to clean much when guests come over as I clean as I go most of the days.


    1. Yay! so glad to have company in my journey of leading a sane life and not fussing with polishing every article in my field of vision 🙂
      I am with you in being a rather neat and organised person. Shedding the torturous drill of cleaning away the already clean surfaces has made room for so much more in my life too.
      More power to us so we stay the same wise selves and never get back to our older madness.


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